Joe and Brett celebrate a banner year of podcast growth by answering questions directly from listeners. In this episode, we explore: (3:20) Anger – feeling, expressing, and receiving ‘anger at’ a person (11:07) Presence – staying with ourselves in complex and fast-paced group situations (15:23) Depression – what is it, and how can we play with it? (21:26) Alone, but not lonely – how our sense of connection evolves through deep work (25:16) Desire – staying in touch with our wants as craving subsides (30:38) Mental health – relating to family or friends with mental health challenges (35:38) Patience – insights and practices to be patient with ourselves and our growth.
Today’s episode is a coaching session with a guest who wants to stop postponing his enjoyment into an abstract future that never arrives. This session opens up an exploration of what can happen when we bring enjoyment into any moment: even the experience of chronic pain.
Joe and Brett discuss how to find deeper clarity in decision-making, whether in the office or on the edge of a cliff. Decisions are emotionally-driven, and we navigate them based on how we think we’ll feel when an outcome arrives. When we’re willing to feel any emotion, our decision-making becomes clear. Tune in to see how becoming more aware of our emotions and using guiding principles can help us quickly identify the next obvious step in any decision-making process.
In our previous episode, Joe and Brett talked about how seeing through limiting beliefs can be scary because we’re not sure we’ll be safe. This is an especially relevant concern in the realm of high-risk activities like skydiving and BASE Jumping. In today’s episode, we explore how Brett’s relationship with the idea of safety has changed over the course of a decades-long career in adventure sports.
Joe and Brett share perspectives and tools to see and feel through the limits of our identity on the intellectual, emotional, and physical levels. Explore how bringing awareness and transparency to our unconscious structures of identity can reduce rigidity and cultivate a healthier, more adaptive sense of self. “Having a fight with your identity is only more identity — it makes it stick harder. The object isn’t to get away from identity, kick it, or beat it into submission: it’s to love it and see what it is.”
Joe coaches a course participant through an exploration of self-trust. Beginning with an intellectual question about conflicted inner parts, our guest embraces the underlying emotional experience and touches the essence of who she is.
Apologies are commonly associated with shame, power games, or beliefs about who’s right and who’s wrong. In this episode, we talk about the freedom to be had in making apologies without shame and in full ownership of our experience. “When you make an apology that’s upright, that’s empowered, it feels fantastic. You feel strength in it. You feel responsible. You feel empowered.”
At the age of eighteen — just before the birth of his child — Emile began serving a life sentence for murder. In this episode, Emile tells us how he came to face the fear that drove him to kill a man, and which followed him into prison. He shares how he learned to love himself and see through an identity that might have otherwise imprisoned him in yet another manner. After finding inner freedom, Emile eventually wrote his way out from behind bars as well: his sentence was commuted in 2017 after serving twenty-one years, a testament to his journey and transformation. “I am under no illusions, right? I cannot make amends to the man I killed. I cannot make amends to his family. I still need to be a north star, right? In my world, in my life. So I can spend my time hating myself, [or] I could spend my time helping to create a world where little kids don’t kill other little kids.”
Beneath the stories we tell are emotions waiting to be felt. In this episode, we talk about how our stories and emotions interact and how feeling our emotions can help us find deeper stories. “If you allow the emotions to move you, your stories change, period. Every time.”
Will Chesney found identity and purpose as a Navy SEAL, one of the military’s most elite teams, where he was required to perform calmly and effectively under the most extreme circumstances. However, years of neurological and psychological trauma left Will in a very dark place. Unable to do what he loved most or connect effectively with others, he turned to drinking and isolation. After hitting rock bottom, a friend reached out and invited Will to join him on a journey of self-discovery that allowed him to tap into his resilience and get himself back on his feet. Tune in as we learn what Will did to find healing and meaning in life after war. Will served in the U.S. Naval Special Warfare Development Group as an operator and a dog handler in the Osama Bin Laden raid. He was awarded a Silver Star and Purple Heart for his bravery. “I woke up and it was me again at one point during the weekend. I know I was a SEAL and everybody always says, “Oh, we can’t relate to what you’ve gone through.” But everybody has trauma. Every life is good but life’s hard sometimes. Everybody deals with trauma no matter…